When my husband and I came across Dr. Buteyko's approach, his Positive Maximum Pause was 3 seconds and mine was 10. Very low! Even though we loved each other dearly, many of our conversations would often end up in a heated argument. When his and my breathing patterns became shallower, our relationship improved. I wrote a thank you letter to our teacher, Dr. Novozhilov, the Medical Director of Clinica Buteyko Moscow. "I am grateful for my 'new' husband," - I said- "I like the improved model better".
"As the weeks of my program passed, I have noticed that I have been able to improve my relationships, that it takes far less effort to stay calm in stressful situations. I am also noticing this work is having an extremely positive impact on my teaching as a yoga teacher, and also as an art teacher.... something I hadn't anticipated. I began to hear comments about how much patience I had with the children in my classes. I noticed that my voice became calmer and that I spoke more slowly when giving yoga instruction, which is of great benefit to my students. I have so much more patience and clarity with my own three children now... Here I had signed up for a breathing normalization course, and I ended up changing my life." (Read the full testimonial) What is the connection between breathing and relationships? Here's how Dr. Novozhilov explains it: when people over-breathe, they lose carbon dioxide in their lungs, which increases excitability of nerve cells. This makes people emotionally more vulnerable, irritable and impatient. Shallow breathing supports calmness, focus, and tolerance.